These pages should help:

<A HREF="http://www.myzero.com/drivetrain/tranny.html">Changing Tranny Fluid on a 1G FWD (similar for an AWD)</A>

<A HREF="http://www.vfaq.com/mods/clutch-1G.html">Clutch Swap VFAQ</A> (don't worry, you don't have to change your clutch, but about 1/3 of the way donw the page there is a good diagram of where the transmission drain and filler plugs are).

I'd have to agree that if you think you put the oil in the wrong place, you need to get it out of there ASAP.